similar to my post earlier this year about body image and how we see ourselves, this video left me a blubbering speechless sobbing mess. i felt it only fitting to share for wordless wednesday.
It is funny you posted this today because ever since I saw this yesterday this question has been in my head too. How do you define yourself as a mother and how do you define motherhood? For me as an adoptive mother I have a unique perspective. People say the craziest thing to us adoptive parents and throwing the word mom around happens alot. And the word REAL MOM gets thrown around even more. It is funny, I know that my son did not grow inside me yet people have to remind me of that fact. It has made me think about it a lot. What will define me as a mother because gentitics is not something I share with my son. But does that matter? Is genetics what motherhood is about? I can see both sides. I don't ignore that his birthmother plays a special role in his life but even she will agree. I am his real mother. I am the one teaching him what no means. I am the one that will be at all his baseball games. I am the one who will teach him how to be a man. So to answer your questions..Who do I want to be as a mother? From my perspective I want to me seen as the mother who is smart, patient, fun and calming. I also want him to know that I will not give in to everything he wants because that is my role. I am his mother. I have to teach him right from wrong, no from yes and patience with anxiety. On the other side I also get the fun stuff too....funny from mad, happy to sad and angry face to silly face. To me that is motherhood. Motherhood is the journey. Motherhood is love and patience. Motherhood is walking through the airport all day with avacado on your back and not caring because your son put it there. ...:) That is motherhood. xoxo
As the product of a divorced family I've never known that "normalcy" of a family where everyone is genetically connected to each other. Luckily, God saw it fit to send me a husband with the same upbringing. As a result, I've always been under the belief that family is what you make it. Friends, adopted children, it doesn't matter. Hell, there are people in this world (present company included) that I know and love far more than the people that I actually *am* genetically connected to - they are my family. Period.
Love is love is love.
And as far as how I want my kids to see me...... well, I don't know. I guess I want them to see me as their biggest fan and the very epitome of unconditional love. No matter how many times my Italian temper shows. Or how many times they get pissed because I stand my ground. Or how many times I embarrass them because I call them out when they are acting like assholes. At the end of the day, everything I do for my children I do because I love them. And without them, my entire world would crumble.
It is funny you posted this today because ever since I saw this yesterday this question has been in my head too. How do you define yourself as a mother and how do you define motherhood? For me as an adoptive mother I have a unique perspective. People say the craziest thing to us adoptive parents and throwing the word mom around happens alot. And the word REAL MOM gets thrown around even more. It is funny, I know that my son did not grow inside me yet people have to remind me of that fact. It has made me think about it a lot. What will define me as a mother because gentitics is not something I share with my son. But does that matter? Is genetics what motherhood is about? I can see both sides. I don't ignore that his birthmother plays a special role in his life but even she will agree. I am his real mother. I am the one teaching him what no means. I am the one that will be at all his baseball games. I am the one who will teach him how to be a man.
ReplyDeleteSo to answer your questions..Who do I want to be as a mother? From my perspective I want to me seen as the mother who is smart, patient, fun and calming. I also want him to know that I will not give in to everything he wants because that is my role. I am his mother. I have to teach him right from wrong, no from yes and patience with anxiety. On the other side I also get the fun stuff too....funny from mad, happy to sad and angry face to silly face. To me that is motherhood. Motherhood is the journey. Motherhood is love and patience. Motherhood is walking through the airport all day with avacado on your back and not caring because your son put it there. ...:) That is motherhood. xoxo
Well said!
ReplyDeleteAs the product of a divorced family I've never known that "normalcy" of a family where everyone is genetically connected to each other. Luckily, God saw it fit to send me a husband with the same upbringing. As a result, I've always been under the belief that family is what you make it. Friends, adopted children, it doesn't matter. Hell, there are people in this world (present company included) that I know and love far more than the people that I actually *am* genetically connected to - they are my family. Period.
Love is love is love.
And as far as how I want my kids to see me...... well, I don't know. I guess I want them to see me as their biggest fan and the very epitome of unconditional love. No matter how many times my Italian temper shows. Or how many times they get pissed because I stand my ground. Or how many times I embarrass them because I call them out when they are acting like assholes. At the end of the day, everything I do for my children I do because I love them. And without them, my entire world would crumble.
Ahhh Damn. Here come the waterworks again.